Cyper

Talk About the Hardest Thing to Do

I find this is the most difficult thing to do if you don’t have momentum. To get that mentality, “I’ll get started and work on it” is such a big obstacle.

There are so many things I want to do. But when I have the time to do it, I see this hugh barrier in front of me and the question, “Why? Why get started? Don’t you have better things to do with your life?” Imagine that question just looming over you like giant with a big stick.

A lot of the times, I’ll make the simple excuse, “Hey. I can do this next time right?”

But next time could be never.

Time Loss on Indecision

I must of lost so much time on that simple and bad decision.

I remember my place was building up mold and mildew at the front door due the moisture made from the heat inside and cold temperature outside. It kept growing and growing and I knew I needed to clean it up.

But I didn’t.

Then, the mold just completely wrecked the wallpaper. Soon after, it became a major health issue, so I took the time to rip out the wallpaper so the mold wouldn’t spread. The wall dried and it stopped growing, but the front of the apartment looked awful. I knew I had to repaste new wallpaper at the front. But I told myself, “Hey, I can do this next time?”

Days, weeks, months would pass by. The same mess in the winter was there in the spring, summer and now fall.

Da Missus got totally fed up. She’s been nagging me, yelling at me to fix up the mess. She told me how friends and family coming over would look at the monstrosity and ask when it would be fixed. She would laugh and say nothing, but I knew it was totally bothering her.

After we tackled some tough issues in the house, she had momentum. She simply told me, “Let’s get the wallpaper done today.” And just like that it was done.

For me, I made such a big deal in my mind and couldn’t fathom preparing the materials and putting the wallpaper up on the wall. I thought it would take a massive amount of time and wouldn’t be done in a day.

After getting it done, it did take some time to do. It took about 4 hours to complete, but it wasn’t some unbelievable task that couldn’t be done. In fact, while I was at work, Da Missus went on and put more wallpaper in another area all by herself.

Did I make a mountain out of a molehill? Undoubtedly.

Unfortunately, there are other things in my life right now I’m mentally blocking myself in the worst way possible.

Factors That Prevent Progress

I find the things that blocking me from taking the first steps to action are several:

Distractable Items (computer, TV)

I would place distracting items at the top of the list since they’re so easy to access and use. Flipping channels and surfing the Internet? Boy, do they waste time.

Just Thinking About it

This is just too easy for me. When it comes to thinking, it seems innocent at first, but my mind wanders so easily at the age. I could simply think aimlessly for hours. It’s really strange but true.

Family Life

My life with my family is an accepted part of life. I have to deal with it and it’s important. Since I know these things, I can make my way around it by talking to Da Missus about needing some time each day. She doesn’t mind it and knows there is work to be done.

The Fear of Taking the First Step

I always feel taking the first step is very scary. I think I’m scared of changes, big and small. Even though I know that change is a constant factor of life, if those changes are not visible, I couldn’t care less about them. It’s the changes that I can see and could affect my life that bothers me. Excuses I know, but that’s the only explanation I can give.

Make that decision and Act

I’m not a fan of making decisions. I like a routine and going with the flow. The thing is. at my age and position, I can’t be in the back seat. There are some things where I should be leading the way.

When I drive my car, I have to make decisions, some of them rather quick ones. As a teacher, I have to make decisions on how to teach the lessons to the students. When a student has a question, I have find that answer that would help him understand what’s going on. I know that and used to the environment.

There are unknown factors that happen in driving and teaching. But decisions have to be made or there’s going to be an accident or problem with the class. I can’t stop. I have to keep moving and create a solution on the spot.

So, why is it so hard to do that with other things in my life?

What’s next?

For a change, I’ve presented more problems than solutions. Hey, I don’t have all the answers. If I did, I would be living a much better life right?

Not to say my life is bad. I think it’s quite good and it will become better.

Anyone who is living have problems. To think otherwise, you’re probably dead. Since problems are an inevitable part of life, it’s time to make some solutions and solve them right? I’m going to solve my issues and set a time limit, so I can expect them to be solved.

Maybe the answers will come from within. Maybe it’ll come from family or friends. Maybe it’ll come from walking down the street. The problem and solution are two sides on the same coin.

All I have to do is look for it and act on it. 

Things to Consider for Today:

• There’s a problem.
• There’s a solution.
• How do you find the solution?
• a. Think it out and act.
• b. Or act.
• The first solution may not work.
• Many times it doesn’t work.
• Don’t expect anything unless you have background knowledge of the solution.
• Go with “Building a better mousetrap” train of thought.
• We do this when we’re playing games.
• We do this when we’re solving an interesting problem.
• When you start, you got momentum.
• Priming the pump is hardest part.
• When the water flows, it’s becomes easier.
• The first drawing, writing, speech, lesson is going to be hard and gonna suck.
• So will the next tens, hundreds and thousands.
• It has to be hard, or you’re not going to do your best next time.
• Make sure your mindset is properly set.
• Then you’ll solve everything.
• In time.